I’m older now, and still living with vitality in my mid 70’s.
But I remember those days, young motherhood, and all the days, and years that followed into adolescence, teenage years, young adulthood etc…..beautiful & messy, stressful & rewarding. I look back and think “how did I do it?”, “how did I get through?”.
I didn’t have the experience of “pressure off”, and “good enough.” It was a constant high bar that could be crushing, crushing to the spirit.
My culture didn’t allow it, life didn’t allow it, and I didn’t allow it.
I’m rewriting my script now.
I’m not in the thick of raising my children, and in keeping the family engine oiled and running.
I’m kinder to & easier on myself these days.
When I feel the stresses of life mounting, I stop w thinking that I’m not doing enough, and I tell myself that I’m doing great, no additional pressure is wanted or needed.
I give the gift of that thinking, and that kind of praise to my children and my grandchildren.
I’m creating a new legacy, I’m breaking the cycle of unhealthy perfection, & constant doing.
It was wonderful & it is so very soothing to be reminded of “pressure off”, and “it’s ok”, and “I’m doing fantastic w just good enough”,
with “I’m allowed to enjoy my life without feeling guilty, and without having to justify or explain anything”.
What a welcomed post this was, thank you so much ! The reassurance “still” feels good and is much needed.
Camilla, I think it's great that your embracing your "good enough" now. It's never too late to be kind and caring for yourself, to yourself. You deserve it, especially after the years of continuing to push through.
Camilla, how long did it take you to reach This Point of realization? What factor would you say parenthood contributed towards or away from that realization? ...if I may ask.
I’m exactly in this spot. Three years into motherhood and I’m finally letting go of the idea of “going back to normal.” I’m standing in this in-between space, reshaping my rhythm, learning what forward looks like 🙃
Ileana, thank you for sharing this so beautifully. That in-between space you described? I know it well.
There’s such courage in releasing the idea of “going back” and choosing to shape what forward feels like instead. Cheering you on as you create a rhythm that’s truly yours.
I’m older now, and still living with vitality in my mid 70’s.
But I remember those days, young motherhood, and all the days, and years that followed into adolescence, teenage years, young adulthood etc…..beautiful & messy, stressful & rewarding. I look back and think “how did I do it?”, “how did I get through?”.
I didn’t have the experience of “pressure off”, and “good enough.” It was a constant high bar that could be crushing, crushing to the spirit.
My culture didn’t allow it, life didn’t allow it, and I didn’t allow it.
I’m rewriting my script now.
I’m not in the thick of raising my children, and in keeping the family engine oiled and running.
I’m kinder to & easier on myself these days.
When I feel the stresses of life mounting, I stop w thinking that I’m not doing enough, and I tell myself that I’m doing great, no additional pressure is wanted or needed.
I give the gift of that thinking, and that kind of praise to my children and my grandchildren.
I’m creating a new legacy, I’m breaking the cycle of unhealthy perfection, & constant doing.
It was wonderful & it is so very soothing to be reminded of “pressure off”, and “it’s ok”, and “I’m doing fantastic w just good enough”,
with “I’m allowed to enjoy my life without feeling guilty, and without having to justify or explain anything”.
What a welcomed post this was, thank you so much ! The reassurance “still” feels good and is much needed.
Thanks for the connection !!
Camilla
Camilla, this touched me deeply — thank you so much for sharing your story here.
I love the way you’re rewriting your script and breaking the cycle for the generations that follow. That’s truly powerful.
And this line—“I’m allowed to enjoy my life without feeling guilty” — that right there is what so many of us need to hear and believe.
Thank you again for this beautiful reflection. I’m honored this piece resonated with you.
Camilla, I think it's great that your embracing your "good enough" now. It's never too late to be kind and caring for yourself, to yourself. You deserve it, especially after the years of continuing to push through.
Loved reading this.
Camilla, how long did it take you to reach This Point of realization? What factor would you say parenthood contributed towards or away from that realization? ...if I may ask.
I’m exactly in this spot. Three years into motherhood and I’m finally letting go of the idea of “going back to normal.” I’m standing in this in-between space, reshaping my rhythm, learning what forward looks like 🙃
Ileana, thank you for sharing this so beautifully. That in-between space you described? I know it well.
There’s such courage in releasing the idea of “going back” and choosing to shape what forward feels like instead. Cheering you on as you create a rhythm that’s truly yours.
...an excellent perspective for those who choose parenthood.
Thanks for this. Everyone’s success looks different. It’s best not to compete and compare.
Exactly this—thank you for reading and for this reminder. We all get to define success for ourselves, no comparison needed.
This was wonderful! I'm in the middle of learning this. Reading has been inspirational 👏
Thank you so much, Laura!
It’s such a journey, isn’t it? Cheering you on as you keep learning and unlearning—one gentle step at a time.
Thank you
Then I became a mom and ate humble pie. I love your soft feminine wisdom-that is power. Well done.